70 Lessons I Wish I’d Learned in School [2021 Update]

This summer marks both my 17th year out of high school and my 17th year working in the digital marketing world. Unsurprisingly, I’ve picked up a few tips along the way, and one thing that always comes up for me is just how useless some of the things we’re taught in school actually are.  I mean, is it really more important to learn cursive writing than personal finance? Or to spend time preparing for standardized tests rather than studying project management skills?

With these deficiencies in mind, the following is a list of 70 lessons that I wish today’s schools would put more emphasis on. You might not agree with all of them, but I hope they at least get you thinking about how we can improve both the educational system and the lessons we carry from it.

1. There’s more than one path in life.

These days, most high schools focus on a single path for students – getting good grades and participating in good extracurricular activities so that students can go on to good colleges and good jobs.

Now, obviously, the sheen has come off this idea a little bit with mounting student loan debt, not to mention rising rates of under-employment amongst new college grads. However, I still see the concept persisting in the assumption that higher education is the right path for every student.

As a successful college dropout, I’d like to tell people this: there are hundreds upon hundreds of different life paths out there. The one that’s right for you may not be the one that your teachers and parents encouraged you to follow, but it’s up to you to make that decision for yourself.

2. A “good” career involves more than just a high salary.

In addition to assuming that college is the right path for everyone, we too often frame career success in terms of salary – and nothing else. But what about personal fulfillment? What about the freedom, in terms of both time and stress levels, to pursue something worthwhile outside of the office?

In my opinion, a “good” career is the one that gets you closest to your desired lifestyle. Everybody’s desired lifestyle will be different, but by asserting that salary is the only measure of job quality, we prevent the conversation about pursuing any type of meaningful lifestyle from even taking place.

3. School doesn’t prepare you for real life.

From what I remember of high school, classes were about memorizing facts and regurgitating them on tests – doing your absolute best not to make mistakes. Does that sound anything like what you go through on a day-to-day basis in your career??

Being successful in the real world requires an entirely different set of skills than the ones you learned in school. It will take time to learn them, but you’ll be better off embracing the process than clinging helplessly to old ideas.

4. No one in the real world cares about your GPA.

Seriously. I’ve never once heard a customer ask about my report card as a condition of hiring my company. If you’re still a student, stop focusing so much on hitting a certain number and pay more attention to the incredible amount of knowledge and information you currently have access to instead.

5. Failing isn’t something that should be avoided at all costs.

In school, failing grades and mistakes made on assignments are cause for punishment – setting students up to view failure as an entirely negative experience.

But as any entrepreneur will tell you, failure is vital to forward progress! So instead of beating yourself up over your mistakes, teach yourself to embrace these challenges as learning opportunities that allow you to better yourself and improve future efforts.

6. Beating yourself up over mistakes only wastes time.

Same deal. Mistakes aren’t fun, but you can learn from them – that is, if you’re able to prevent yourself from wasting energy beating yourself up over your failures. To do this, try to practice experiencing your failures fully, grieving and then moving on to prevent yourself from wasting time you can’t afford to lose.

7. Procrastination isn’t always bad (but you have to know how to manage it).

I can’t remember how many teachers in my life emphasized the importance of avoiding procrastination, but it was enough to get me wondering why it’s such a critical thing to avoid when so many of us do it in the first place.

In fact, I don’t think procrastination is the evil that my teachers would have had me believe. But I do think it’s important to understand how you, personally, handle it. Learning to understand how you work best and the conditions you need to get things done is far more important – in my opinion – than obeying some default maxim.

8. The Pareto Principle doesn’t just apply to pea pods.

I never once had a teacher mention the Pareto Principle (also known as the “80/20” rule), even though it’s a critical concept for promoting success in both personal and professional endeavors. If you haven’t heard of this principle before, take the time to learn it and apply it to different aspects of your life. You’ll be amazed at what you’re able to accomplish by eliminating different “80 percents” from your life.

9. Practice productivity.

It isn’t true that you’re either a productive person or a slacker – productivity is a skill that can be learned, just like any other. If you want to be more productive, you need to identify the techniques and environment that put you in a productive state and practice replicating these conditions over and over until they’re ingrained in your daily routine.

10. Set (and stick to) deadlines.

Tasks tend to expand in perceived difficulty related to their deadlines. But while schoolteachers typically enforce deadlines on their assignments, they never teach students how to apply deadlines to their own lives. If you want to get more done in the same amount of time, learning how to set and enforce deadlines for yourself is an absolute must.

11. There’s no substitute for hard work.

I don’t know about your school experiences, but many of mine involved finding shortcuts around assignments that seemed pretty pointless – and I had few teachers that actively tried to put a stop to these “hacks.” Unfortunately, this sets up the expectation that anything in life can be achieved without hard work, though this obviously isn’t the case in the real world. The sooner you accept that there’s no real substitute for just doing the work, the sooner you’ll be able to make some serious progress towards your personal goals.

12. Stop aiming for perfection.

As a student, there’s nothing better than an A+. As a business owner, there’s nothing worse.

Think about it. If you sell a product, it could take years of development before your product reaches A+ status. If your customers would have been satisfied with a product in B- condition, you’ve wasted years of potential profits – potentially sinking your fledgling business. As a general rule, it’s much better to find your “good enough” point than to push needlessly towards perfection.

13. Changing your attitude can change your reality.

We tend to think of attitude as being finite, saying things like, “I’m an optimist” or “I’m a pessimist.” The reality is that you can take steps to change your attitude, though you won’t hear instructions on how to do this shared in many classrooms these days.

To practice thinking more positively, train yourself to look for opportunities to be grateful and to remind yourself that things could always be worse.  Over time, you’ll find that you’re more successful and happier overall as a result.

14. Have a plan.

Let me be totally clear here. I’m not talking about the importance of adopting a traditional business plan or a “5 Year Plan” for how you see your career going. Instead, what I mean is that it’s important to set goals and have at least a rough road map for how you’ll achieve them. Taking the time to flesh out your desired course of action to some degree will help ensure that your time and energy aren’t wasted on actions that don’t move you towards your overall objectives.

15. Metrics matter.

In school, we’re given grades by our teachers, and these grades are used to monitor our progress over time. But regrettably, most students view their grades with a mixture of apprehension and dread – not as an opportunity to track and improve their overall progress.

As an adult, you won’t be graded, per se – but there are still plenty of different metrics you can measure on your own. Whether personally or professionally, there are countless metrics you can track to improve your quality of life, such as: 

  • Your number of workouts
  • The hours you spend reading for pleasure 
  • The number of servings of vegetables you eat each day  

The specific metrics you track don’t matter, just as long as you’re using this process to promote meaningful change in your life.

16. Write things down.

Your mind might be sharp as a student, but that won’t last forever. If you truly want to keep track of things later in life, get in the habit of writing them down and storing your notes using an organizational system that will allow you to call up specific pieces of information as needed.

17. “Worst-case scenarios” rarely play out in real life.

As teenagers or young adults in school, everything seems like a “life or death” scenario. And while growing older will give you the context necessary to view events and possibilities within the appropriate framework, you can practice this now by fully exploring worst-case scenarios in order to objectively determine whether or not you’re overreacting about something that likely won’t occur.

18. A business that doesn’t make money is a hobby.

Here’s an important life lesson that you’ll never hear in high school – a business that doesn’t make money isn’t a business at all. It’s a hobby that’s costing you lots of money to pursue. If you’re running a business, check in on your bottom line frequently and take actions designed to bring in greater profits if you find yourself in the unintended hobby camp.

19. You’ll never be good at everything.

So much of the educational world these days is designed to prop up students’ self-esteem, which – in turn – leads to students leaving academia believing that they’re naturally as gifted as the hypothetical love child of Steve Jobs and Bill Gates.

Sorry, but it just isn’t that likely that you’re skilled in every area. Don’t feel bad – instead, use this as an opportunity to learn how delegation and/or outsourcing can help you to get more done in your professional life.

20. Building value takes time.

When I was younger, I used to be much more impatient about success. I’d start a new project and then be disappointed when it didn’t produce immediate results (in much the same way that my effort in the classroom was rewarded on a project-by-project basis).

Even for educational platforms that position themselves as value options, it takes time to learn how to convey that value to their users, and they have to find fresh ideas to do it. For instance, edX had a stroke of genius when they created free online English and Spanish language courses. If you just want to learn, there’s no cost; but if if you want to get official certification for passing the course, you pay for the certificate. It looks like it’s working well for them.

But after investing in Single Grain over a period of several years, I understand now that building value takes time. In fact, everything in business takes time – growing your reputation, establishing a client base and even turning a profit. Expecting immediate results isn’t realistic, even if that’s what you’re accustomed to based on classroom expectations.

21. Never compete on price.

Sure, this is a business lesson – and it’s not one that I’d expect to hear taught in every high school classroom around the country.

However, if you’re in any type of business (even just the promotion of yourself as a commodity throughout your career), it’s vital. Competing on price – that is, aiming to be the cheapest option in any marketplace – devalues yourself, your company and your products or services. 

Undercharging means you’ll have to work more to turn a profit, and will likely end up delivering sub-par work. Be fair to yourself by finding your point of differentiation and charging appropriately for it based on the value you provide.

22. Expand your business carefully.

When you read stories about business growth and success, it’s only natural to crave the same thing for yourself. Unfortunately, growing your business – or really, any other project that you care about deeply – too quickly is a recipe for disaster.

As your business grows, proceed with caution, making decisions based on verifiable facts rather than gut instincts alone. Doing so will prevent you from getting in over your head or finding yourself over-leveraged without an appropriate exit strategy.

23. Invest in disaster preparedness.

Another important part of expanding your business carefully is disaster preparedness. It isn’t fun to think about, but if you run a business, having an established protocol for company members to follow should you, your equipment or your facilities become incapacitated for any reason will help you get things back on track much faster.

24. Get used to making fast decisions.

The school environment favors the thoughtful; the business world doesn’t. While philosophy and deep thinking have their place in academia, failing to pull the trigger and move forward when you should while growing your business is one of the quickest routes to failure. Learn how to make decisions quickly in order to avoid being left behind in the face of important choices.

25. Always be testing.

Digital marketers love to talk about split testing, but the practice isn’t just good for website owners. There are plenty of different aspects of your life that can – and should – be tested for maximum effectiveness, so take the time to experiment! For instance:

  • Are you more productive first thing in the morning or last thing at night?
  • Do you come up with your best ideas in the office, in a cafe, or in the shower?
  • What works best for you – adopting a consistent working pattern, or switching things up from day to day?

26. Debt is (usually) bad.

If I could pick any one thing that schools should focus more on, it’d probably be the importance of managing money responsibly. It absolutely kills me that today’s students are taught very little about personal finances – even though stupid financial decisions made throughout college can play as big a role in someone’s ability to move forward successfully as getting the right job opportunity or training.

While I think that there’s a time and a place for both student loan and mortgage debt, you’ll be better off overall if you avoid credit cards and other types of consumer debt as much as possible.

27. Financial security is more important than shiny new gadgets.

Similarly, it’s a hard lesson to learn, but if you don’t have the cash in your bank account to cover both the newest iPhone and your rent, you don’t have enough money for the phone! Learning to live within your means is an incredibly important lesson to learn, and it’s one that I wish we put more of an emphasis on in the classroom.

28. Pay your damn taxes.

It kills me to see stories of business owners in trouble for owing millions of dollars in back taxes, because the problem is entirely avoidable! If you can’t handle this responsibility yourself, get an accountant who will keep you sweet with the IRS.

29. Your health is your most important resource.

The older I get, the more I see health as a resource to be protected – not a given that will always be there for me. Start to view your own health and wellbeing in the same way, lest you risk pushing your physical and/or emotional wellbeing beyond the point of repair.

30. All work and no play makes you a dull person.

Yes, hard work is important (as I said before) – but you’re only young once! Stop wasting all of your energy on achieving perfect grades or securing your next promotion and live a little. Trust me, you’ve got plenty of years left to suck up to your teachers or your bosses.

31. Understanding your own needs is better than following de facto guidelines.

Your teachers tell you to get eight hours of sleep a night so that you’ll do better in class. Your parents tell you to drink eight glasses of water a day to avoid dehydration. But what if neither of these – or any of the other default guidelines you’ve been exposed to – actually work for you?

In general, you’ll be much healthier and happier if you take the time to “optimize your life” in order to determine conclusively what your own needs are.

32. Learn how to sell effectively.

No matter what line of work you wind up in, you’ll always be selling something – even if it’s just encouraging others to buy in to your ideas. In other words, it’s never a bad idea to learn how to sell effectively. You don’t need to take a class to do so – simply Google sales articles or online sales training programs for plenty of opportunities to brush up your skills for free.

33. There’s nothing wrong with going to bed early.

In high school and college, it’s fun to go out on the weekends and then roll yourself out of bed at 2:00 p.m. the next afternoon. Particularly among young adults in the Western world, so-called “FOMO” – or fear of missing out – is a real issue. But these late “mornings” become more of a pain in the ass when you remember that you have real responsibilities to attend to. Here’s a tip – don’t burn yourself out. It’s okay to go to bed early when you feel like it, no matter what fun your friends are up to.

34. Develop your own systems.

In the classroom, you’re forced to follow systems set by your teachers (no joke – I once had a teacher who would take off points for using margins or line spacing settings other than the ones she specified). Unfortunately, this doesn’t teach you how to figure out tasks and assignments on your own in the real world, which means you’re going to have to put in the time to develop new systems of your own.

35. TV is a total waste of your time.

Sure, Breaking Bad is a tremendous cinematic achievement – but what does it really add to your life? Not only does it hold you back from doing something more productive, it can actually be detrimental to your intelligence in later life. By turning off the TV, you’ll not only save the money that would otherwise go to an expensive cable package, you’ll free up time for the hobbies you enjoy – making you a happier, healthier person all around.

36. Networking doesn’t have to be sleazy.

Schools love to pitch the importance of networking, while simultaneously portraying it as a “do it because you have to” type of activity. In my experience, a far better way to approach networking is to think of it as a chance to make new friends. Since you wouldn’t be a self-promotional asshole to new friends, you can comfortably avoid these behaviors while networking as well.

37. Everyone is awkward (so get over yourself).

Here’s the deal. Just about everyone in the world believes themselves to be shy and awkward on some level. In fact, the average person displays 32% of the characteristics that are connected with social awkwardness. So stop using this as an excuse not to put yourself out there!

High school politics and cliques often teach us not to stray far from our established social circles, for fear of being rebuffed or deemed awkward. And unfortunately, that carries over to adulthood, where we let this fear of judgment limit the connections we make. Stop doing this once and for all. Approach new people with kindness and compassion (remember – they feel just as uncomfortable as you do), and you’ll reap the benefits of a larger, happier network of contacts.

38. There are very few true emergencies.

Despite what your bosses or teachers will tell you, very few things happen in this world that represent true emergencies. By learning to tell the difference between these rare occurrences and everyday “disasters,” you’ll be better able to maintain control in high-stress situations.

39. Lighten the hell up.

Grading scales and the importance placed on standardized test results in today’s educational environment pits student against student – making even minor academic failures feel traumatic to already-overburdened students.

And while I know it’s impossible, given how closely state educational funding is tied to test scores, I’d love to hear teachers tell students to lighten up every once in a while. Education should be about learning and exploring (ideals we can still emulate in adulthood) – not about the pressure to meet an arbitrarily-defined standard of high performance.

40. Regularly ask yourself, “Am I happy or am I doing what others think should make me happy?”

The school environment is such a cut-and-dried, “pass or fail” environment that it’s difficult for students to envision themselves following any path besides the one prescribed to them by teachers. For this reason, I think it’s tremendously important that we teach ourselves to question this approach by asking whether or not our current activities are aligned with our overall goals. If we’re following the recommendations of others too blindly, it’s time for a course correction!

41. Surround yourself with inspiring people.

Businesspeople love the phrase, “Get the right people on the bus,” but I believe this sentiment should extend beyond your colleagues. By surrounding yourself with inspirational people in your circle of friends, your larger business network and the mentor relationships you cultivate, you’ll find yourself constantly uplifted by their positive energy and better able to make positive changes in your own life as a result.

42. Relationships require consistent effort.

When the shit hits the fan, all you may have left in this world to count on are the relationships you’ve built with the people in your life.  And just how exactly do you think that’s going to turn out for you if you’ve let these connections fall by the wayside because you’ve been “too busy” to keep in touch?

Relationships take time, so if you want to be able to count on these connections in your times of need, put a little effort into reaching out and letting people know how much they mean to you.

43. Few things are more important than friends and family.

Of these relationships, pay special attention to the ones you hold with your close friends and family members. Though it’s easy to take for granted the idea that these people will always be there for you, even these closest ties can fray without proper maintenance. Long story short – don’t get so tied up with your educational or professional goals that you fail to remind these important people just how lucky you are to have them in your life.

44. You can do anything – but not everything.

I think it’s a huge issue today that schools are more concerned with artificially inflating students’ self-esteem than teaching them the actual skills needed to cope with real-world challenges. And one of the places I see this erroneous point of view pushed more than ever is with the idea that “you can do everything you want to do”.

No, no you can’t. You can’t be a business owner and a professional athlete at the same time (at least, not in all but the rarest of cases). You can’t be a full-time employee and a full-time parent without one side of the coin wearing thin. It’s not a personal failing – we all only have so many hours in the day. Use them to the best of your ability by picking and choosing the elements that matter most to you, but then stop stressing out over the feeling that you need to do everything all at once.

45. Work towards something larger than yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with working towards earning a higher salary or making more money, but if that’s all you do, you’ll eventually find your life to be an empty pursuit. To prevent this type of burnout, find a way to improve the world in a way that’s meaningful to you. Whether you include a charity component in your business (a la TOMS Shoes), volunteer on your own time or simply dedicate money to a cause you appreciate, you’ll definitely experience the rewards of giving something back to your community.

46. Constantly expose yourself to new experiences.

You don’t grow as a person by following the same routines over and over again, carrying out the instructions that your bosses or teachers give to you. You grow by challenging yourself and exposing yourself to new ideas and experiences.

Basically, don’t be that guy who spouts the talking points he heard on the radio as his personal belief system. Get out there and meet new people, listen to new ideas and challenge yourself to see new points of view – I promise you’ll be a better person for it.

47. Never be afraid to ask questions.

As a student, I used to feel incredibly nervous asking questions in class – wondering if the other students around me thought I was stupid for not already knowing the answer. I wasn’t the only one. Astonishingly, two-thirds would rather struggle on alone or wait to ask friends or family than turn to their teacher for help.

The bottom line is: you’ve got to find a way to get over it! Asking questions isn’t a sign of weakness or mental insufficiency – it simply shows that you’re interested enough to seek truth and better information.

48. Say “No” so that you can say “Yes” to the right things.

It isn’t always easy to say “no” – especially if you feel like you owe something to the person doing the asking. However, keep in mind that every “yes” you say when you don’t mean it effectively constitutes a “no” to something you’d rather be doing. Learn to say “no” when it’s appropriate in order to leave more time in your life for things that should get a “yes.”

49. Never stop learning.

As a student, it’s rarely considered cool to be excited about learning. But if you adopt this approach as an adult, you’re going to find yourself left behind in a world of people who know how important it is to constantly update their skills. Instead, take the time to pursue your interests and upgrade your skills on a regular basis so that you never stop learning.

50. Leap.

Perhaps my biggest pet peeve with the traditional educational system is that it makes us hesitant to trust our own judgment and pursue the right answers that are uniquely ours. Instead of leaping into a new opportunity when the moment’s right, we hold back and wait for approval from our teachers and professors.

If I could offer current students only one lesson, it would be to leap more. Sure, do your research and have a plan in place before making the jump. But don’t ever – ever – let the system fool you into thinking that there’s only one route to success. Forge your own path and don’t let anyone hold you back from leaping when you should.

51. Education Does Not Equal School

Education is the act of learning something. In today’s day and age, college is the least efficient path to learning (unless you’re a doctor, lawyer, or science major). Don’t be afraid to invest in alternative courses and teachers who don’t have official titles. You can land a high-paying job in the industry of your choice as long as you have the skills necessary to perform your role. You don’t necessarily need a college degree to build a successful career.

52. Your Mind Is Connected to the Body

Positive thoughts beget positive emotions. And negative thoughts create depression and anxiety. We don’t have control over everything around us. But we do have control over how we frame it in our own minds.

53. Humility is Underrated

In a social media world, everyone’s first instinct seems to be bragging. But showing off your cool new house or latest vacation won’t endear you to anyone. Humility is healthy. And it doesn’t cost you anything.

54. Forgiveness is For You, Not Them

When you let someone off the hook for something they’ve done in the past, you benefit more than they do. Because in reality, you’re freeing yourself from those negative thoughts. Revenge and grudges only poison you in the long run. So make the selfish choice and forgive people.

55. Most Limitations Are Self Imposed

People tend to put limits on what they can do. We put limitations on timelines, income, relationships, careers, and more. And thanks to our ego, once we’ve arrived at a conclusion, we don’t want to let go of it. Make sure you’re not holding yourself back with self limiting beliefs.

56. No, School Does Not Build Good Habits

I remember teachers telling me how even if the class is boring, I’m still learning good habits. That’s just not the case. Motivation builds good habits. People respond to incentives. If you want something, you’ll find a way to accomplish it in the most efficient way possible. Find your motivation.

57. Focus On the Job You Want

Sorry, professor, but a job that exists today could disappear tomorrow. All it takes is one technology evolution and that entire group of people are looking for a new job. Think in terms of the problems you want to solve, not job titles.

58. The Real World Doesn’t Revolve Around a Schedule

In school, important events are predictable. The math test is next Tuesday. Midterms are in 3 weeks, and so on…but the real world doesn’t give you a nifty schedule with specific dates. Huge opportunities or challenges appear out of nowhere. It’s up to you to be eternally ready.

59. College Is Not “The Greatest Time Of Your Life”

Most people’s university experience consists of drinking heavily Friday to Sunday, while putting in the minimum time possible needed to pass their classes. But you can party, learn, and have a social life at any point in your life. 

60. Envy Will Get You Nowhere

Why didn’t anyone ever tell me that comparing myself to others was useless? Instead of being envious, identify what it is you are so jealous of in the first place. Then, if it’s actionable, work toward developing that trait in yourself.

61. Most Problems Never Come to Pass

People waste an awful lot of time and energy worrying about things that never happen. If living in the past holds you back, living in the future burns you out — it’s like constantly revving your engine even though the race is a month away.

62. The World Doesn’t Care About You

Stop with any line of thinking that involves what you “deserve.” The universe doesn’t have that concept in its vocabulary. Your life will be a result of your hard work, and a mixture of luck. Funny enough, you’re likely to have better luck and get what you “deserve” when you work hard…

63. Wikipedia is Not a Primary Source

Wikipedia is an excellent place to begin your research. And furthermore, it is a primary source when it comes to people. Most celebrities have a person managing their Wikipedia page full time, precisely because so many people view it as the world’s most trustworthy encyclopedia.

64. The Bigger the Words, The Smarter the Person

It’s a shame really. School teaches you to take a concept and describe it in the most convoluted way possible. And you get bonus points if you use big words like antidisestablishmentarianism. Well, when you’re actually trying to communicate in the real world, simple writing wins every time.

65. Do Whatever It Takes to Attend Higher Education

When I was about to graduate high school, I remember the general sentiment: “Do whatever you have to in order to go to college. Even if it means taking on $100,000 of debt.” I disagree. Do whatever it takes to make sure you’re doing what’s best for you. Don’t rack up debt just because of social pressure.

66. You Need to Figure Out What You Want Right Now

There are 60 year olds who are starting an entirely new path in life. If you don’t have all the answers at 15, 25, or even 45, so what? As long as you’re breathing, you can change your life and your direction at any time.

67. Knowing The Next Step is Overrated

Look, when you’re planning out a marketing project, having an outline and a plan is great. But when it comes to making big life decisions, they are inherently subjective. There’s no right answer. Take the leap, and figure it out as you go.

68. Gratitude is Power

When you’re grateful as a default state, less bothers you. More amazes you. Ironically, you end up getting more of the things you thought you needed. And you’re happier along the way. Gratitude is free, fast, and something everyone — especially those of us living in the first world — should practice.

69. History Is Not Always Accurate

Looking at the past as a predictor for future results doesn’t always pan out. Yes, you can learn key lessons from past events. But every moment is a unique combination of people, place, and time. Be willing to adapt if your prediction is wrong.

70. You Should Know A Little of Everything

Not everyone needs to know math, science, history, literature, sociology, and the chronology of the socialist movement in Cuba. It’s okay to specialize. It’s okay to not be interested in different things. Personally, I love challenging myself to learn new subjects. But would Einstein have been any better of an inventor if he studied salsa dancing?


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Leith 149 months ago

Great post, and yes, gotta agree with everything you’ve said Sujan! Nice post yet again.

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks much, Leith!

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Dilanka 149 months ago

What’s up dude.

First time swinging by your joint on the internet 🙂 I usually see you passing by on facebook.

Anyway, I enjoyed this post quite a bit – it’s very much in line with a father would write to his son/daughter. I assume this is a working draft toward something similar.

Thanks man. Bunch of great nuggets in here.
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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks, Dilanka. Can’t say that it’s a message for my kids (as I don’t have any), but if it helps anyone out there to live a better life, then I’ll be a happy man!

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Brett Snyder 149 months ago

Great post Sujan, really love the insights here. The biggest theme I’m seeing out of your lessons are the need to be willing to take risks but more than that you need to be able to trust yourself that those risks are worth taking. There’s no such thing as a linear path anymore and trying to plan every aspect of your life (personal or professional) is going to frustrate you and derail you. Be flexible, be willing to audible when necessary, and look forward rather than dwelling on mistakes in the past (certainly learn from them…but don’t let them consume you).

Thanks again for posting, was a great read to get motivated for the day!

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Sujan 147 months ago

Brett – I’d say that that’s a pretty good summary of what I’m going for here 🙂 I completely agree that it’s up to each of us to take risks and find our own paths. Sure, we’re going to mess up occasionally, but that’s not something that should be feared, given the learning opportunities that mistakes present. It’s not always easy to go your own way, but nine times out of ten, it’s worth it.

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Ravinder 149 months ago

Hi Sujan,

Today first time read your blog and found it very interesting..really very nice post
I have bookmarked your blog and now I will read it continuously..looking forward for your next post …

thanks,
Ravinder

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks, Ravinder. Glad to have you as a reader 🙂

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Robert Oschler 148 months ago

Hello Sujan,

Wonderful blog post. I would note that for many people who are being ground under the wheels of this economy, the tip about not everything being an emergency doesn’t hold true. For those people every end of the month is a dire emergency and for the truly unfortunate it can be every meal. Hopefully people will follow your advice about debt and being honest with what is a hobby instead of a business or they will end up squarely in the “life is a constant emergency” camp. Other than that, this was an excellent set of tips for living live better.

You have a couple of typos. “give in” should “given” and “wellbeing” should be “well-being”.

Sincerely,
Robert
Android Technologies, Inc.

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Sujan 147 months ago

Robert – obviously the situation you’re describing constitutes a true emergency, but that’s not what I’m referring to in this post. What I take issue with are the people who run around deeming the smallest mishaps “emergencies,” which leads to unnecessary stress and frustration for everyone involved. Tell me you haven’t ever had a coworker whose constant mistakes or tardiness didn’t turn into “emergencies” for your department 🙂 What I hope people get out of that tip is how important it is to keep things in perspective in terms of overall stress and energy levels.

Thanks for reading!

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Tania Moraes 148 months ago

Loved this read – very inspiring and resourceful. Stumbled upon your website through a link on Linkedin. I bookmarked a few posts since they’re quite enjoyable to read. Definitely something I needed to read today to remind myself of similar things especially as a recent graduate.

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks for reading, Tania!

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Jermaine Legend 148 months ago

great post, as a student this has and will continue to help me. Thanks

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Sujan 147 months ago

Glad to hear it! Best of luck with your studies – both what you learn from your teachers and what you piece together on your own.

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Roman 148 months ago

Oh my goodness this is honestly one of my favorite posts I’ve ever read. EXCELLENT advice! Thank you Sujan

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks Roman, I appreciate the compliment 🙂

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Huzaifa 148 months ago

Great post

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Chris Morrison 148 months ago

Fantastic advice, from 1 to 50. I’m a teacher and I’m going to have my high schoolers working on this soon, as well as trying to remember it for myself as well as as a teacher and a dad. Thanks

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks for reading and sharing these tips, Chris!

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Tjaart 148 months ago

Awesome list. Live my life by these now that I’m older (and wiser). Learned the hard way. Wish I had the list when I was younger.

The only one I would change slightly would be “32. Learn how to sell effectively.”… I would say “Learn how to negotiate effectively”. Everything in life is a negotiation. 🙂

Thanx.
TJ

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Sujan 147 months ago

Great point, TJ 🙂 “Learning how to negotiate effectively” can be honorary point #51 on this list, as you’re right – that’s a very important skill to have. Thanks for sharing!

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Luba 148 months ago

Simply TRUE.

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putri 148 months ago

i will post it in my tumblr,,,and try to apply it in my daily teaching activity…since i am no more a teacher…but i will spread it through students in my projects…thanks so much…so helpful ….

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thank you, Putri. I appreciate you sharing my tips, and hope your students find them useful!

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Shanthi 148 months ago

Very interesting read. It is the first time that I have come across your page. Wonderful pearls of wisdom. Have applied some of it to my life and will continue to add the others that you have posted. Thank you.

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks Shanthi. I’m glad to hear that you found these ideas helpful!

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Seong Cheol Kim 148 months ago

Nice to meet you(online), mr.Sujan. It’s the first time for me to come across your homepage. I am korean boy and currently a high school student. I have really enjoyed reading your post. I think it contains your serious thoughts on life itself as you go through your high school and into your experience in internet marketing. I thank you for writing such a wonderful post, since I will apply some of it to my own everyday behavior and spread them on to other people. Each piece of your posting is… is fascinating piece of wisdom! They’re easy to read, understand and to apply to our lives. What I can see as a main topic of your posting is that there is no more “set” path of life, so we should know when to take risks. Also we should be flexible to our lives ahead of us, since we never know what’s gonna happen. After reading what you have written, I am gravely concerned about korean style of education. They just simply make us read stuff and memorize them. We still take lots of tests, on which we shouldn’t fail. worst thing is the style of education is indoctrination. As for someone who had experienced American and English styles of edycation, which can be called as “teacher-student cooperative teaching”, I can’t seem to adapt to current style of korean education. What shall I do? I would greately appreciate it if you could give me your sincerest opinions on my concern. Thank you again for writing a great post. I will visit again, very soon.

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Sujan 147 months ago

Seong – I’m sorry to hear that you’re struggling with the Korean education system. Please keep in mind that there are as many learning opportunities as you want online. You can always supplement the information you receive in school with internet-based courses and training programs, many of which are available for free. Keep looking for ways to take risks and make your own path – even if you don’t find these things within your school system alone.

Best of luck to you!

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Naren 148 months ago

Great post! So true!

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Sujan 147 months ago

Thanks Naren, glad you liked it!

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John R T 148 months ago

Truncated: how does the meditation end?

“… have a plan in place before making the jump. But don’t ever – ever – let the system fool you into thinking that ”
Thinking that ‘what????’

A great collection. Happy anniversary, and thanks for inspirational reminders.

I hope you will join me for coffee, when next you are in Central America.

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Sujan 147 months ago

Sorry about that – didn’t copy everything over from Word into WordPress. The post is fixed now, and thanks for reading!

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godfrey 148 months ago

good facts

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Allen Andringa 148 months ago

Seriously? You didn’t learn ANY of those fifty points in school? 1? 2? 3? 4? 5? 6? 10? 11? 12? I could go on….. I just don’t believe it. Did you EVER listen to your teachers beyond the subject material they presented in your classes? If so, then one of three things must be true. 1) You went to the worst school in the world. 2) You were home schooled and your parent didn’t prepare you for life. 3) You didn’t listen between the lines.

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Sujan 147 months ago

Dude, calm down – it’s just a blog post. Obviously I learned things from my formal education, but there’s nothing wrong with wanting to make the system better. Whether or not you agree, I still believe that public schools focus too much energy on “teaching to the test” and too little on skills that will be useful in the real world.

If your school was different, that’s great. But if it was like mine – where things like personal finance weren’t ever covered – I don’t see an issue with identifying ways that the educational system could be made stronger for future students.

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Allen Andringa 148 months ago

Oh….. by the way. High school isn’t supposed to be “real life.” It’s high school. And if it didn’t prepare you for “real life” on what street corner did you learn to write?

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Rosen 147 months ago

I like numbe 11

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Eric 147 months ago

I like what you wrote, but I think you can classify watching TV under what you refer to as “Living a little.”

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khush 147 months ago

so wel thought off, jus perfect.

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anju 147 months ago

sooo true…..
thank u sir ….

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Archie 147 months ago

Great stuff man. Can I share this with friends on face book and acknowledge you?

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jalaldeen samoon 147 months ago

Top class stuff. I will ask my sons and son-in-law to read this

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l oc 147 months ago

Thanks Allen for bringing a proper perspective to Sujan’s post. This article should be titled: 50 Lessons I Wish I’d Learned From My Parents…NOT your school. Didn’t your parents and relatives teach you anything? Mine did. This isn’t your school’s fault-put the blame where it belongs.

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Al Rodz 147 months ago

Very interesting 50 lessons, as a father myself i definitely will look forward to teaching my son all of this and more. Thank you very much for taking the time to write this out.

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Gem 147 months ago

Really enjoyed reading this post. There are many things in the list that I have come to realize after leaving education
about work and life in general. I agree in that education gives you a distorted outlook on the world essentially missing a lot of the nuts an bolts of how to live a happy successful and creative existence.

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Yusuf Adun 147 months ago

Very inspiring, and absolutely true. can i have your permission to share this with friends on facebook?

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Sonali 146 months ago

Very useful and inspiring! thanks.
Sonali

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meena 146 months ago

I loved reading thru your post, it gives lovely insights and does bring an honest truth about what the currrent generation needs from the classroom..well I will be moving them on htis direction regardless of my employers.

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Jenna 132 months ago

Such a great post! And so true. Thanks for the great morning read!

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Wycliffe Owino 132 months ago

You have written the real truth a bout life. I have come to realise that schools majorly deal with a utopian world which does not actually exist. Life is all about flow, find your rethym and you will be successfully unstopable

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Tom George 118 months ago

Very bold and true! I liked this post! Thanks!

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Shanti Patel 103 months ago

I am going 48 now and most of the things Sujan explained here are true like I nobody have seen my eng. mark sheet or certificate other than making my passport. To really save our generations from so much wasting money it’s time to enlighten parents to stop this cult of high fees universities based MBAs and do some meaningful things.
In today’s economy I see more business opportunities than ever. Why not help millinals to become more proactive and startup with new ideas. Lot of things need to be done to improve our earth.

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charles 103 months ago

i was really inspired by this post thank you so much sir my theology class loves it what else do you recommend i teach them because they don’t really pay attention to me 🙁

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